Are you considering plunging into the world of online dating? If so, there are some considerations to keep in mind before jumping in. These include choosing the right app for you and your intentions, deciding how much information to divulge and what to keep private, and how to navigate the huge number of other online daters to find the one. Finally, we will discuss the best things about online dating. Let’s get started.
Choosing The Right Dating App
This all depends on who you are, who you are looking for, and what your intentions are with that person. If you have specific interests, such as a fetish, a preference for same-sex or nonbinary partners, or a fellow middle-aged partner, you can find apps that cater to these needs. Depending on your intentions, you can also find the appropriate app, for instance for casual online dating, BDSM hookups, or more serious searches for a life partner. Whatever your preferences and personal situation look like, there is an app just for you.
This is a great asset to online dating, as you can narrow down your search for a partner by joining the appropriate app and making your intentions clear. The downside is when your interests are very specific you might find that you do not match with many people and have to make a selection from a small pool of suitors.
Sharing Information vs Lying
There is a range of problems that can come from online dating, from people faking their identities to over-sharing and putting themselves at risk. It can be difficult to find the balance between honesty and protecting yourself from harm. Generally, a good rule to follow is not to divulge your address, surname, or other personal information beyond your first name, age, and general neighborhood (if you are meeting for a date).
Avoid communicating with people who ask for financial information, suggest meeting in a private or secluded place, or have stock photos as their profile picture, as they are likely trying to scam you or hide their true identity. Remember that lying to people online can be immoral, as it plays with their feelings and trust, and can even amount to fraud. Use apps that identity check users and stick to cautious honesty for the best and most moral online dating experience.
Quality vs Quantity
Another aspect of online dating that appeals to many people is the sheer quantity of dating app and users. This means you have access to a lot more people than if you are just trying to meet someone in a bar. Moreover, you can use your preferences to narrow down your search to people who meet your criteria, are like-minded, and attractive to you. In theory, this means that apps provide both quality and quantity.
However, just because there is a high quantity of online daters, does not mean you can guarantee quality finds. Realistically, even with a personalized search, you will probably find yourself scrolling past many potential partners before landing on someone you might like. Another downside is that you can get blindsided by your preferences and close the door too soon on someone who, if you met in person, could have pleasantly surprised you.
Dating Online: The Best Bits
We have covered some pros and cons and considerations to make about online dating, but let’s end with a positive. Here are some of the best things about dating apps. They are great for shy or busy people. If you do not have time to go to bars every weekend to meet people, or you struggle to put yourself out there in person, apps are perfect ways to start communicating with potential suitors.
Moreover, you can make your intentions known from the get-go, which avoids time-wasting and disappointment further down the line. On top of that, you and the other users are generally open to meeting new people and having new experiences. Finally, it is a great first step in communication before a face-to-face date. This allows you to build a rapport before the first date and get to know the basics about the person before committing to a face-to-face encounter.
This has been a brief look at some of the positives and negatives of online dating. First, we discussed the types of online dating and hookup apps and how to choose the right one. Then, we looked at sharing too much information versus lying and how to strike a healthy balance. Next, we examined the quality and quantity of dating app users and how to find someone for you. Finally, we hashed out the best bits about online dating, such as its convenience for busy or shy people and making intentions known from the start. Hopefully, you now feel ready to jump in and start meeting singles online.